bLagag!

“Do not look back and grieve over the past, for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has not yet come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful that it will be worth remembering”

i just saw this in a forum, i’m a bit guilty on this one…

Last night, my boyfriend and had a little wierdy situation. Unusually, my bf was being a little cold to me, I told him that whatever was bothering him it wasn’t worth being distant and he should talk to me. He said he was feeling a bit worried about a conversation we’d had which really shocked me, I really didn’t feel the conversation justified such concern – I started to worry that I couldn’t be as perfect as he might want me to be. He realised it was escalating and said ‘ok, I’m just going to say it….whats really bothering me is this…I know I shouldn’t have, but when you were in the shower I was feeling insecure so I looked at your phone and saw xxxxxx’. What he saw was totally innocent. He then asked if I was angry that he looked in my phone as he’d invaded my privacy. I wasn’t, and told him I had nothing to hide from him so it didn’t bother me, and that actually I was impressed that he’d admitted doing that, taking that risk to sort out an issue that was bothering him. And he’s not the sort of person to admit insecurity, he’s very strong emotionally and I felt that him admitting vunerability to me was a big step.

I thought about this and wondered why people are so protective of their privacy. I cant help thinking its because they have something to hide. If an SO was consistently checking up on their partner, there would be an issue, not with privacy but with trust and control. But if it’s a one off, or its something the person feels they have to do once in a blue moon to put their mind at rest, or as long as the SO doesn’t systematically rely on snooping for reassurance or information – then why do people get so offended by it? For me personally, I have no element of my life that I would want to hide from my SO, and I am not doing anything I shouldn’t be, so I have no problem him reading my texts every now & again. In my experience, ‘private’ people usually aren’t open and honest, they have something about themselves they are ashamed of or need to hide.

If my mother looked through my things, I would be angry and accuse her of invading my privacy. That’s because I don’t want her knowing what I do all the time, but my bf I have nothing to hide from.

What do you think? Would you have been angry if your SO read your texts?

i suggest you read the rest from this page: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t68272/

I’ve learned in my lifetime so far, that you can’t help who you fall for and no matter how hard you try and how much it hurts you everyday, that you just wanna be with them or just talk to them you never stop trying to make them happy by the little things you say or do because thats what makes your life worth going on for.

Standing for what you believe in, regardless of the odds against you, and the pressure that tears at your resistance,
means courage

Keeping a smile on your face, when inside you feel like dying, For the sake of supporting others,
means strength.

Stopping at nothing, and doing what’s in your heart, You know is right, means determination. Doing more than is expected, to make another’s life a little more bearable, Without uttering a single complaint,
means compassion.

Helping a friend in need, no matter the time or effort, To the best of your ability,
means loyalty.

Giving more than you have, and expecting nothing But nothing in return,
means selflessness.

Holding your head high, And being the best you know you can be. When life seems to fall apart at your feet, Facing each difficulty with the confidence. That time will bring you better tomorrows, And never giving up,
means confidence.

It’s a sad fact of life, that people who professionally preach love and understanding, talking and listening, being good towards each other, are often the ones who would act most fiercely against their own sermons, when they are personally affected by the very same situations their clients are in. How can you then take the professional advice of such people seriously?

Some people misunderstood my attitude… Some people got hurt the way i talk..
Some people got angry ‘coz of my indifference…
But that’s the real me… And i don’t need to pretend just to please anybody!

1. You’re on the opposite sides because of the fact that you and him are opposite sex.1
(You debate about everything. The result cold shoulder.)

2. You’re always introduce as a cousin because his gf might be a friend of his friends.
(You know what i mean?)

3. Jealous girlfriends!
(Because of your closeness and all that your bestfriend can talk about is you. The gf might consider you as a third party; sometimes the gf might slap you on the face and say very mean things!) ouch!

4. Sometimes you feel he doesn’t care for your feelings.

5. His no.1 priority is his GF. You’re always taken for granted.
(But who are you to complain right? consider yourself lucky if your bestfriend don’t have one!)

6. You two is considered as a couple because you’re always together.
(Result: GOSSIPS and sometimes he can be considered as your ex! huh?)

7. He always have something special for his gf but there’s none for you! huhu
(Not that you’re greedy or something, you just want a little consideration right?)

8. You have to ALWAYS understand!
(Even though you can’t)

9. You are always asked for advices about their relationship.
(Not that you don’t like giving him some, but sometimes it’s just so irritating and can get on your nerves!) aaarggghhhh!

10. You know him for so long, yet your just a FRIEND!
(Not that you want to be more that friends, that’s not the point)

But I think bestfriends is always the 2nd choice.

The dictionary defines a hypocrite as someone who “pretends to be better than he really is or to be pious, virtuous without really being so.” A hypocrite is someone who says one thing and does the opposite.

One of the main reasons people have double standards is that they desire to have the best of both worlds. They go to church on Sundays and as soon as they walk out the door, they go back to living their “regular” lives.

“Do the right thing” doesn’t mean to do that which best serves our lustful desires. A lack of respect for the seducing nature of sin has led many to live hypocritical lives. In our heart of hearts, we know fully well that something is morally wrong with our actions, but we do it anyway because it feels good or is convenient.

The people committing hypocritical acts normally try to use some form of rationalization to justify their actions. A man committing adultery may say that he is only breaking his wedding vows by having sex with prostitutes. The ultimate rationalization is the phrase, “I just couldn’t help myself.”

If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it was, and always will be yours. If it never returns, it was never yours to begin with.
—Unknown